Be Nice to Each Other Jar


Having two or more children is fantastic, especially when they are old enough to occupy each other and enjoy the same games. However, everything must be in balance, so when you have multiple children there will be fighting, arguing, and disagreements. While this is normal behavior for any humans who spend too much time together, it becomes a problem when they begin to act mean towards each other.


A peaceful way to teach the kids to work together and be nice to each other. With the motivation of getting to buy a treat at the end of each month, kids are encouraged to treat each other with respect and love.




I’ve tried all the tips I could find on Pinterest and from friends and family. I’ve had many tried and failed attempts on how to deal with my two children fighting all the time. They would continue to fall back into bad habits of speaking rude to each other or even getting rough. A common event is when one wants to other to do something or help them and the other is rude and refuses, causing a chain reaction. As I am writing this I just watched my kids do this exact thing, ending in them calling each other jerks. I went straight to their “Be-Nice Jar”.



At the beginning of each month I start the kids off with $20 worth of quarters in a jar they helped to paint. Each time they are rude or disrespectful to each other, 50 cents is taken out of the jar. If they are both rude, a dollar will be taken out. At the end of the month they can split whatever is left and spend it however they wish. This teaches them to work together to keep the highest amount, encouraging them to be nice together to keep their change.



The first month we tried this out, they had only $7 to split at the end of the month. This will be our third month and things are looking more promising. One week to go, but there has been a great deal of improvement in the way they treat each other. I even catch them saying, “Let’s play nice and keep our quarters.” It may start as a desire to earn money, but the goal here is to create a habit of being nice. I like how calm this method of discipline is. No yelling, no time outs, just them taking accountability for their actions and words by dealing with the consequences and having a reward each month to encourage them to keep up the good work.


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